Sophia’s teacher told me today when I went to pick her up, that Sophia missed out on swimming because she hit a boy. (he also missed swimming)
So we teach our girls early on that boys (bullies) can do whatever they want and if we girls defend ourselves, we get punished too.
I was so angry I couldn’t even say anything. Why oh why can I only communicate in writing with authority figures. I just freeze up and nod and panic inside and try to get away as fast as I can. I could so easily become a hermit with a little hermit daughter.This is the same boy S who helped R attack her last year and harasses her all the time for being ‘different and weird.”. Grrrrrrr.
She said on the way home, “Mom, there is a notice on the wall that tells you your rights. It says you are not suppose to tease people for being different.
Why don’t they listen Mom? ” I told her that I really don’t know, maybe they are just not thinking of how it makes you feel. Then I suggested she write the teacher a letter, or we do it together so she can have her say.They completely ignore the Autism and expect her to be a typical kid. She can’t do that, her brain and nervous system are not wired the same. This small incident was devastating to her, and created a massive meltdown on the way home and likely she will grow to not trust her teacher to do what is right in the future.
I may need an advocate to come to the school with me and write everything down for them. Her Doctor yesterday suggested I get one, and this is just confirmation for me.
Déjà vu, my own school days all over again. We may have to teach her some ninja self defense moves but I am sure as hell not telling her not to defend herself. A lack of support personnel is the issue, not my daughter defending her body.
She knows home school is an option, but I won’t force her unless I feel I must. She loves seeing her friends, but her health and well being must come first.